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FAQAsk me anything.

I'm open to answering any question you have about working with me. There is never a useless question, so please don't hesitate — I encourage and promote curiosity.

Is sex therapy all you do?

While I specialize in sex therapy, it isn't the only therapy I do. What's most important to know is that I'm both extremely knowledgeable and comfortable discussing all kinds of sex, sexualities, relationships, and gender identities. We may not focus on any of it if that isn't what you need to address — though you'll see questions covering these in my in-depth intake.

Do you have sex with your clients?

No. Absolutely not. We will discuss sex and other sensitive topics in depth, but I'm aware of the power dynamics in the room and would never abuse that power or take advantage of the therapeutic relationship.

Touch between me and my clients doesn't happen, with the exception of a handshake or a hug — both of which must be consensual for everyone. If anyone doesn't consent, that decision is respected and honored. Consent is essential in all physical touch, including handshakes and hugs, and it's enforced in my office.

How do I know if I need sex therapy?

It depends on what you need. I'm more than happy to help you figure out whether sex therapy would be useful for you. If it isn't, I'll gladly point you toward better options and give you any referrals that might help.

Some common concerns that prompt people to seek sex therapy are listed on the What Is Sex Therapy page.

How many sessions should I expect?

It's different for every person and every relationship. I've seen people for as little as one session — extremely rare — and I've seen others for years, with everything in between. The number depends on your needs and your process.

Do you offer virtual sessions?

Ask me during the consultation. I'll let you know what's currently available and whether it's a good fit for the work you want to do.

What do sessions cost?

Individual and relational therapy is $220 for 55 minutes. Extended sessions and intensives are prorated from that rate. Full details are on the Services page.

Do you accept insurance?

At this time I don't. I'm happy to provide a Super Bill that you can give to your insurance company as an out-of-network provider. This may or may not result in reimbursement for your out-of-pocket investment.

When you say "all-inclusive," what does that mean?

It means I welcome people from all areas of life — every gender identity, sexual orientation, ethnicity, ability, and so forth. I work hard to provide an environment that's safe for you, because I know not everyone moves through life without difficulty because of these parts of themselves.

I also acknowledge my own privilege and how it may differ from your experience. I aim to offer a space where you can honor all parts of yourself without fear.

If you have any accessibility requests, please don't hesitate to tell me so I can do my best to support you.

Where is your office?

2806 N. Speer Blvd, Denver, CO 80211 — in the Highlands, on Speer between Federal and Zuni. It can be tricky to find the first time, so I'll send detailed directions before your first visit.

A framed Frida Kahlo print and a stack of books on the shelf in Dr. Lily Zehner's office

There is never a useless question.

I encourage and promote curiosity — so please don't hesitate to ask.

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We'll talk about what's going on and whether I'm the right fit for you. If I'm not, I'll point you toward someone who is. No pressure, no paperwork, no cost.

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