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My Partner Won’t Have Sex with Me & I Don’t Know What to Do!


My Partner Won’t Have Sex with Me & I Don’t Know What to Do!

I hear this complaint often as a therapist who specializes in sex, intimacy, and relationships. It is often expressed with panic, sadness, and/or anger; sometimes with hopelessness. They feel lost, their partner feels lost and they come to me for help. They want to know why this is happening and how to change it.

Underneath the panic, sadness, anger, and hopelessness is a need and desire to physically connect with their beloved. To be skin to skin, to feel the passion they once felt, to be desired. We as humans are wired for connection: emotional and physical. When we lose this, we may find ourselves feeling isolated and frustrated. The relationship may feel incomplete. It can be incredibly painful to experience.

What if I told you that you are not alone, that there is hope?

This is what my friend, Robyn D’Angelo and I discussed in our interview on “How to Love Your Sexually Unavailable Partner” for her upcoming online interview series. We discuss what it may look like, what may be going on and ways you can begin the process now to reconnect with your partner.

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Does this sound like you? Is your partner sexually unavailable? Do you find yourself avoiding sex with your partner? Or, would you like to learn ways to help keep your sex life active and exciting? Then I invite you to join us in this valuable conversation on a tender topic. You can sign-up for the free online interview here: This interview will go live October 12th and will be available for 72 hours! Plus, you’ll have access to 21 other interviews regarding topics such as “How to Love Your Busy Partner”, “How to Love Your Creative Partner”, “How to Love Your Defensive Partner” and so many more!

I hope you’ll listen in!

Until next time,


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Dr. Lily A. Zehner, MFT-C is a therapist who specializes in sex, intimacy, and relationships. Her private practice is located in Denver where she helps others connect emotionally, sensually, and intimately. To learn more about her and her services, please feel free to take a look around her website.

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